How I Became a Sexologist
It’s funny where life can take you, if you let it.
Do you believe there’s something you’re meant to do in this life?
Something that you, for whatever reason, seem perfectly suited to be?
Well for me, it’s being a sexologist, and helping men through difficult times in their lives. I didn’t set out to do this, but once I got on the path it all kind of fell into place.
I started off as a Midwife and Remote Area Nurse, and in Australia that really does mean remote. I was stationed in the Abrolhos Islands, a beautiful yet isolated chain lying 80kms off the coast of Western Australia.
It was a privilege to be the only healthcare professional on the Islands, and it opened my eyes to the breadth of concerns that accompany people’s everyday healthcare issues.
Back on the mainland I furthered my education, becoming a Nurse Practitioner and working in a range of hospitals and clinics, before a woman walked in one day and changed the course of my life.
Grace and I had worked together in an Emergency Department when I was only 21.
I remembered her always talking about her sex life, and at the time I was horrified to imagine that people in their 40's even had sex anymore!
But I digress... Grace started to cry. Her partner had prostate cancer and although he’d recovered, their intimacy hadn’t. She didn’t know what could be done, so I started to investigate. They both came back a week later, we solved the problem and my course was set. I went back to university again, to study Sexology this time, and I’ve never looked back.
Oh, by the way, we had a 90 year old man in our clinic the other day who is having sex three times a week – so you’re never too old I can assure you.
Seriously though, I think I was meant to be on this path.
I seem to have just the right combination of humour, grounding and sensitivity to have those tricky conversations,
and put people at ease at the same time. Along with my medical training and background, it all just works.
“Sex lies at the root of life, and we can never learn to reverence life until we know how to understand sex.”
- Havelock Ellis
And now, here you are reading about some strange Australian sexologist...
Perhaps because you have concerns and you’re trying to find a few answers yourself. Well, if I could offer a word of advice, all I would say is ‘go with it’, see where you end up.
I always wanted to help other people, but I had no idea I’d end up helping them in this way, and none of it would have happened without following my instinct and curiosity.
So good luck, follow your gut, and all the best in the meantime.
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